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Do You Feel Hesitant In Asking For Something?

Ask and you shall receive. Seek and you will find. Knock and the door will be open to you!!
These verses are from The Bible, Matthew 7:7.

Bible says, we are the children of God and not beggars. Thus we have all the rights to ask from God’s treasure. And, the same is applicable in our world too. If we want something, all we need to do is Asking for it. However, many of us feel shy in asking for a help or for a favor. We get trapped in an ever going battle that happens right inside us and it never let us open up. We don't ask and we keep anticipating things that actually don't happen.

In my childhood, there were times when I wanted to ask my mother for a different dress than what she chose for me, but I didn't. I thought that she would scold me. In school, I wanted to ask my teacher to slow down a bit, so that I could understand better, but I didn't because I thought my classmates would consider me as a fool. I wanted to ask the lady, sitting beside me in the bus, about a certain place.But I didn't as I feared that she would guess that I was new to that place and could harm me. I want my husband to take me on a vacation, but I am not asking as I think that he has a lot of work pressure and my request could annoy him.

These are a few my own life's examples and I am sure similar apprehensions you also have in your life, around Asking. Let's try to understand WHY and have a look at these barriers that stop us from asking:
  • First and most important is Low Self-Esteem. I thought if I ask my teacher to repeat what she explained in class, she would think that I was less attentive and I never made my request. Clearly, I was less confident at that time.
  • The second barrier in asking is Pride. Sometimes we avoid asking as we think it’s a matter of pride to know everything and asking will put our pride on the ground. 
  • The third barrier is Fear, Fear of Rejection, or sometimes fear of humiliation. Before even asking, sometimes we withdraw, thinking that the person we are going to request, will reject or deny.
  • Last but not the least Ignorance. Sometimes we don’t know what to ask for. Nowadays we have internet, and we can all kind of information. But still, sometimes we don’t know how to ask and sometimes whom to ask.
Once my father was traveling to Jaipur by train. He had to go to the washroom, so he left his suitcase in the coach unattended.Once he was back to his seat, his suitcase was stolen. This is a very common case, and it happens with everyone while leaving our belonging for a small duration. All we need to do is to ask our co-passenger or nearby people to take care of it. Asking harms no one and it could save you from theft as well.

I had a friend in my college who used to like my roommate. My roommate also liked him very much. But these two people said nothing to each other ever. Time passed by, and to our surprise, another boy from another class proposed my roommate and she accepted the proposal. When I asked my roommate why she said yes to the new boy, she answered that this boy proposed her first and ask for her friendship. She couldn't deny as he himself asked for her presence in his life. Clearly, at times, delay in asking something could give a lifelong regret.

Ask and You Shall Receive

If you really want something from someone, don’t sit and brood, go and ask :
  • Ask for love, ask for a hug, ask for listening.
  • Ask for forgiveness, ask for attention, ask for commitment, ask for prayer.
  • Ask for a helping hand in the home, ask for a favor.
  • Ask for promotion, ask for a hike in salary.
  • Ask for a better table at a restaurant, ask for a discount.
So, next time, you need anything, find the correct person, use the correct tone and Ask it.
And believe me, there is 90% chance, that you will get it. Remeber the advertisement of TATA SKY "Puch dala to Life jhingalala". This actually holds true.

HAPPY ASKING!
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