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Why your New Year resolutions are failing

With the New Year starting to bloom and talks of New Year resolution already fizzling, the very common yet serious question that people brainstorm is "Why we can’t  stick to our goals?"

Is this happening to you as well? Then this post is definitely going to help you.

I know, we carefully make our goals for the year. We try all possible ways to chase our goals. However, when finally the year comes to its end and we start re-evaluating how much we achieved, we often feel "Oh, not again. I am still far from what I planned." Let me tell you it’s not because there is a lack of desire. We want to achieve something and that's why the goals were set in the first place. It’s not because we didn’t have the right motivations. The biggest reason why most of us fail at keeping to our goals is that we are focusing on the wrong issue.

As per a study, the most common new year resolutions are "Losing Weight" and "Earn More Money". Why are these two the most picked ones? Because both physical and financial health plays a vital role in one's personal happiness, as well as happiness in the family. For losing weight people stick to strict weight loss routine. They hit hard initially and reach almost There to touch the ideal weight that they took a challenge for. But in doing so, they lose the charm of eating and enjoying the food. They feel bored mid-way. Either they left the weight loss regime with thinking it is impossible for them. Or, they reach the target and from the next day start relaxing their diet and exercise efforts. Eventually, they fail to achieve what they wanted to. So, when you are setting and working on your goal of weight loss, or any other goal for that matter, remember that success lies in becoming better, not just doing better things. It more about changing your behaviour and focus on changing your nature.

How do you change your nature then? By joining a gym? Or by doing a double shift for earning more money?  These options may be good at helping you change your behaviour, but if you want a long-term change of nature, those are not enough. The change in nature stems from the desire to become better for a long-term with consistent efforts to change and looking beyond the measures of success and focusing on success itself.
  1. Short-term wins are important, so make small goals that eventually forms a bigger win. 
  2. Ask yourself if your new activities and habits are sustainable. If not, determine how you can make them work, either by being more realistic or upping your commitment.
  3. Don’t let the measures of success become the end. Define success and treat the measures of it accordingly.
  4. If you are not sure how to change, ask someone who has done it. Chances are you have friends or family members who have walked your path.
  5. Remember that your success or failure affects more than just you. Your spouse and your children may be depending on you to live a prolonged and healthy life, to get your financial behaviour in order or something similar.
  6. Map above points with your New Year resolution and accordingly walk on the path of success.  Most importantly, check your motivation time to time to remind yourself of why you are improving yourself. I am sure next year would be better then.

Happy New Year
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