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Bonobology- All About Relationships - And More

Ever since I got married, I have a myriad of relationship tangles. Many times, I find myself so confused about the norms and unwritten rules that apply to different relationships of my life. Earlier the life was so simple; parents, a sister, and limited friends. No one else was that important and I never needed to think about maintaining a bond with anyone else. Then my life swayed and I got married to someone much known and very cool. However, my dreamy life changed in just one day and reality was complex, puzzling and knotty. Suddenly my understanding about relationships got tempered. I realized marriage is a complex affair and with joining a new family, you get so many new people in your life. You are supposed to care about them all, no matter you like them or not.
It's not like I have any turbulence in my married life. It's going good and I am happy in my small family. But you see, in real life, every other minute is adjustment and agreement. You get to deal with a number of heads that think about the same matter. These heads could be your spouse, lover, parents or even other family members. When your idea gets picked, you feel joy. But when you have to accept other's, you feel caving in. This is Life actually, but as I said, all this confuse me. Should I behave the way I am or should I change? Should I do what is right or should I do what pleases the person in front of me? What about my happiness? If I am not happy, how can I keep people around me happy? Honestly, no one is still able to answer my question clearly. It is so relative.Howbeit, with living each day of my life happily, I am also learning to cope up with my confusions. 
When I started writing 2.5 years back, most of my blogs were around my parenting experiences. Slowly people liked my still novice writing and through other blogger friends, I came across a destination called “Bonobology”. I went through this portal, I discovered, every person needs this space to retrospect the raw aspect of his/her life. Life is not always a fairy tale, it is even complex when we have this web of relationships around. And Bonobology is a unique platform to share and read relationship  stories. 

They care every single relationship whether normal or complex. They cater write-up on diverse relationship topics like love, marriage, separation, extra marital affair, midlife crisis and many others. As a blogger, I found Bonobology the best place to share my first such post in which I mentioned the similarity between my marital life and my work life. I hoped to get the right audience for my story here in Bonobology, and guess what, I found them. People liked the analogy that I tried to draw in my post with comparing my husband and my manager. It was an elated moment for me, really. Then, I read Bonobology stories on topics upon which common people rarely share much in our country. Like; affairs and cheating, sex and passion, being single and dating and heartbreaks. I was amazed, how many aspects of relationships were unknown to me before that. 

Okay, as a software person, I am in habit of writing everything in points. So, here are the key points of this awesome platform Bonobology. And please keep on reading even if you are not into writing. My points are going to make you go WOW:

1.       In Bonoboloy, they have relatable content and stories. When you read them, you find similarities between your relationship world and which a Bonoboloy story tries to portray.
2.       You can read stories on diverse topics like love, breakups, affairs, dating, divorce and even bedroom stories. They also have spiritual and mythological posts. Everything is here!
3.       They have experts on board who help people with their relationship problem. You can ask questions there even anonymously and get advice from the expert panel. So, stop calling radio love gurus who give people unrealistic suggestion. Ask your even hotchpotch relationship query here at Bonoboloy.
4.       They also provide a discussion forum where any of the Bonoboloy members can start a discussion thread on any topic. Members can ask for suggestions or simply put their thoughts to get reader’s view. Again, you can go anonymous if you wish to hide your identity. They respect your choice.
5.       Then there is a provision of writing your confessions. Other people can read it and comment on it. You may get surprised to find so many like-minded people there who will not judge you for your admittance.
6.       This point is silver for bloggers. If you love writing, you can start your own blog at Bonoboloy and can keep on pouring your thoughts and emotions here. People can read and comment on your blog. Every week they pick two bloggers and acknowledge then on Bonoboloy social media platform as “featured bloggers”.
7.       Another fun part is their continuous contest. Every week they run contest, not necessarily for blogging, but also around only commenting on any specific situation or topic. So everyone can take part and use his/her luck.

Still not convinced? Then go check yourself the Bonobology platform. The website is  http://www.bonobology.com

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