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A woman can be sexy even after marriage and having kids..

Have you ever noticed how you had suddenly changed to 'anty' from ‘didi’ for the neighbourhood children just after you got married? With no surprise, you own the title ‘Anty’ forever after you become a mother.

A women can be sexy even after marriage and having kids by Vibhu & Me
The perception of people is not the only thing that changes we ladies from didi to an anty. Most women including myself themselves change their appearance after marriage and after having kids. We abandon jeans top and fit in kurtas and kurties. We inbox our funky jewelry and get on with the traditional earrings, rings and necklace. There are many more things we change and the most ridiculous thing we do is when we start listening to others. This hardly matters for you as an unmarried cool babe that you are wearing pink lipstick on a maroon dress; even if someone says that is not a match, you would have taught it’s the upcoming fashion with a wink. But after marriage and kids, we become a learner who can take advice from absolutely anyone. Even your house help Suneeta can comment on your way of wearing a sari and you would ask her help in draping it over you.

Don’t you think it is a kind of insecurity we cuddle with after getting married and having kids that that most unfashionable sister-in-laws can tell you which lipstick suits on you?
Nothing as such changes in the universe when we change our marital status in office details. But we over absorb the heat.

There are hardly few women who dared to dream a comment like “hot and sexy” on their latest profile picture after she becomes a mother of two. However, my point is WHY?

Come out of the burden and believe me you can be sexy even after becoming a mother of two. After a couple of years, we are married, we start being indifferent about how we are looking. Sometimes, even I think, it hardly matters I am allotted with my possible placement. This becomes a more serious negligence after we have kids. We get adjusted to the XL size and believe that jeans and single pieces don’t suit our sketch now. To give up hopes is the easiest thing to do and most of us do it. Though we like dresses, though we like to be in shape, we have practical mindsets and excuses that resist us from at least making the effort.

Come out of this resistance whenever you get time for yourself. After your kids are settled into their schedule, try hard to do the following things:
  • Have a look at the latest collection of dresses and jeans.
  • Try those dresses and get determined to gift yourself the right figure to fit in one of your choices.
  • Make a healthy diet chart for yourself and set a timeline for the expected figure.
I know many of you would have already tried to do follow this and have failed to manage with such resolutions. My advice is to give it another shot and do a bit more this time.

First of all, “Remember that you are young and would be young forever” Secondly, “Stop restricting yourself due to what others will say”.

You are beautiful even if your weight is 70+ and have all the rights to feel beautiful so pamper yourself with bold eyeliner along with the dresses of your choice. If you think this looks shabby to others, wear them at home for yourself. And don’t forget you have to fit in that perfectly.

So what if you are a mother of two now, you can dress up the way you like, you have all the rights to look stunning and right to stay young at heart forever. Whatever be your biological age, feel young. There is nothing wrong with giving others a shock when they come to know that you are a mother of two and your inner happiness would get multiplied by a million when this actually happens with you. So just go on.  
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