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Why today's parents are educating their daughters?

It is undoubtedly a fact that educated women spend a better life. And the benefits to education are not restricted to being financially strong and living a good life, better-educated women are more likely to have healthier, better-educated kids. So today’s parents are providing good education to their daughters and encouraging them to unleash their potential. However, is this only reason parents are working hard to educate their daughters?
I feel, with a booming economy, increasing groom prices and dowry harassment have become the weighty reasons why parents are trying their best to provide higher education to their daughters. I am not saying that parents don’t want to see their daughters settled and financially strong even when they are not married. But Dowry is still prevalent in many parts of our country. Still, happens where parents claim that their daughter is being killed by her in-laws for dowry. A few days back only I read the news where a 20 years old girl in Odisha was killed by her in-laws and the reason was given dowry. Although, the investigation is still in progress. 
I always believe that every custom made by our ancestors have a reason behind it. So I think in the early days dowry used to be an institution in which gifts and presents were given to a girl at the time of her marriage when she was leaving her parents’ home and join her husband’s family. But, in course of time, it has become a crude reality resulting in female killing, suicide, bride-burning and other cruelties. Strangely due to culture and society pressure, if a girl is not working (not earning money), parents feel low and count it a reason to agree for dowry. On the other side if she is working and is independent, parents raise their voice against giving dowry.  The equation of marriage has become “good education = marriage in good family” now.
I find today’s parents willing to educate their girls and in most of the cases want them to pursue jobs so that they can fight with this evil practice of dowry (and many other). Also, they know that educated girls are less likely to be victims of domestic and sexual violence or to tolerate it in their families. Although a reality is parents often do not directly benefit if their daughter is working and earning money. But for the sake of her future security and peaceful life, they spend all their savings in providing higher education to their daughters. The flip side of the coin is harassment of girls even being in so-called good families. But in those cases, if a girl is educated and aware of her rights, she seeks help legally and doesn’t suffer in silence and waits for better time.
I know people claim that there is a fall in dowry cases now and even false complaints are coming. I am not denying them. However, in this post, I am not trying to judge and comment on how people are using/misusing laws given by the government. I am trying to convey my thoughts why girl education is becoming important for parents, and unsafe-unhappy marriages are unexceptional reasons. For such girls living in an unhappy or abusive relationship seems better than living on the streets without money. And getting education empowers girls to take control of their lives, their families, and their future!  
“The fastest way to change society is to mobilize the women of the world.” — Charles Malikleo.

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