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You can do this Mothers

To all Mothers..
How many times in a day you think that you can't do a certain thing but you find yourself doing that? As a mother, we all presume many things impossible at the very first moment but then we get ourselves indulge into it somehow. No matter if that work is hard or easy, sad or enjoying, we do it.. even after thinking that we can't do this. Here are some of things we, mother think we can't do but we actually do in our lives:
1. "I can't carry this" says the woman before conceiving her baby and thinking it's the biggest responsibility of the world. But later SHE carries this responsibility with full of her heart and becomes the life-line of her kids.
2. "I can't face this" says the pregnant woman, hearing shouting and crying of other woman in labour. But SHE faces it when her time comes and encourages other mothers to stand up to it with strong will power.
3. "I can't do this anymore" says the would-be mother suffering painful contractions inside the labour room. But SHE welcomes her babies in this world bearing that intense pain and she loves them the most.
4. "I don't think I can do this" says the woman leaving her baby as she goes back to work. But SHE goes to office every day and tries to prove herself as the best mother with balancing work and family.
5. "I can't deal with it" says the mother of the defiant toddler or teenager dealing with rigid tantrums. But SHE loves her kids’ unconditionally in-spite they give her tough time to face.
6. "I don't think I can see this" says the mother who watches her baby drive off for the first time without her. But SHE develops confidence over her baby and encourages him/her with the biggest smile of the world.
7. "I can't live this way” says the mother who helps her baby send off the application for the college which is far away from her place. But SHE sends her baby out for studies and wish for his/her brightest future.
8. "I don't think I can do this" says the mother who takes a look at the proposal photograph of her daughter. But SHE dreams about the wonderful married life of her daughter and let this separation happen after her daughter got married.
9. "I don't think I can see this" says the mother who gives her son to his new bride. But SHE accepts this new relationship of her son's life and retires from the job of worrying about what his son would eat/wear any other day.
10. And "I don't think I can do this" says the woman who gives her child up for adoption. But SHE accepts this parting for the good of her child's life and tries to present herself as the toughest woman of the earth. 
I hope you agree with me that just when we, mothers, thought we couldn't, just when we were sure that there was no way we ever could, we discover that we had it and we did it. Because we have blessing of being MOTHERS. There are many other such moments when a mother thinks she can't this or that but her "I don't think I can do this" always has a hidden “But I will do this" appended.
So just when you are sure that you can't handle it, that it's too tough for you, that you're not strong enough or equipped to face it, remember that you were never designed to do it alone. You have all those women with you who are mothers and have faced such spells. You would find them saying collectively "Go ahead…You can do this".
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