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My 'Invisible' Accomplishments #DecadeHop #RRxMM

As we entered 2020, through this post I am trying to contemplate the coolest, most daring, and most significant feats of my life during the last decade. Now the more I regress my memory, the more I feel there are two types of achievements or accomplishments that I can ponder upon; Visible and Invisible. Visible ones are those that I can count on my finger like a parrot and others can nod also. I got specs on, married to a not-so-romantic man, produced a baby, started writing and added good 17 kgs in my body volume (I was 50 in 2011). However, there are many invisible accomplishments too that either I know silently or very few can assert.

From 2011 to 2019, Who am I now

My invisible accomplishments by Vibhu & Me
From a coy soul to now an outspoken woman, the trek was not easy. I achieved it. From being a no-makeup girl to now a lipstick swatches observer, the transition was tough. But it happened. And from being a sweet hater to now a sweet lover, the change was mysterious yet occurred. And now I can die for Gulab Jamuns. And I also reached from making papad parathas to now perfect layered ones. Cooking was for me Edison's experiment. I discovered many ways of not doing things and managed to learn out of failures.

I have learned how to adjust and negotiate. Credit is of course to my marriage and my job. For that matter, I realized all contacts need adjustments. Be it your family or official. Suddenly I started to care about all Chachi ji, mami ji, admin, helpdesk, IT persons. From being a silent observer, I am now a voice raiser. I am now more considerate of other people and try to offer help as much as I can. I never cared about the environment and sustainability, but during the last few years, I have become a flag bearer of sustainable living.

I must include a few lines about my professional achievements. The visible accomplishment of course is, starting as a junior software person to now a project manager, I added many feathers, roles, and awards in my hat. However, the invisible achievement in the last 10 years is understanding personalities and how they think about office work.  Getting things timely done from them is the biggest fulfillment and if that happens without reminder emails or retrospection, it is a non-apparent achievement.

The value of  'Invisible' Accomplishments

There were many inner demons and shortcomings that I overcame too in the last decade. But the fact of the matter is, most of us do not talk about unseen, un-realistic, non-medal worthy achievements. For example; at the beginning of the decade I could not address a reception desk or customer care helpline, without rehearsing or flow-charting what I need to say. Now it is like nothing. No one appreciated that improvement. No training was given to me, and unless I thank myself for this and my other hidden achievements, it is all thankless work.

I may not get a medal for scoring good in achievements marathon. However, I managed to live and learn. And believe me, most of what we humans accomplishes on any given day is very hard to see.  

“This post is a part of ‘DECADE Blog Hop’ #DecadeHop organized by #RRxMM Rashi Roy and Manas Mukul. The event is sponsored by Glo and co-sponsored by Beyond The BoxWedding ClapThe Colaba Store and Sanity Daily in association with authors Piyusha Vir and Richa S Mukherjee”

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  1. You are so right when you say that we easily brush aside some tiny achievements that we make everyday. And it's so important to pat ourselves on the back for all that. I'm so glad you did that Shipra and shared a valuable insight with us. Wish you luck!💐💐

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    1. A Hundred Quills is the name of my blog. Just missed adding my name there.

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    2. Thank you Sonia for stopping by. Glad that my thoughts look valid to you!

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  2. Hey every small accomplishment is a step forward. In our day to day life every feat we accomplish helps increase our confidence. There are no need of awards for such feats but they are enough to help us reach our goals.

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  3. Point noted and appreciated!
    In the larger scheme of things, it is these tiny invisible achievements that qualify for progress.

    If not anybody else, we ourselves need to acknowledge them.

    Well done on both, your visible and invisible achievements last decade.

    Cheers! :)

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  4. Every time me make a mistake we learn. So its life. And invisible achievements are made everyday and they re the one that make us stronger. Great read !!

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  5. You are very right.. listening to your inner self is the best thing indeed.. noticing the changes it has undergone and the numerous silent achievements it has made to make you stronger in this world, is no mean feat. People who cheer themselves never fall into traps of depression.. we all should learn from u how to cheer our silent achievemnts and celebrate them too. :)

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    1. We only know what we silently accomplish so it is our duty to reward ourselves :)

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  6. The transition wouldn't have been easy, but is sure is worth it. I relate to becoming more vocal. The invisible achievements made visible achievements shine brighter. Best wishes for this decade. :)

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  7. Ditto on most of what we achieve is invisible. But it is these invisible accomplishments that build the individual. I could so relate to your journey. Wishing you the very best.

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  8. Congratulations for the transition you've made. A very good post.

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  9. Marriage and job are the two things which offer the best experiences of your life. You evolve as a person and understand the real world. I always believe "fight for your right". This is my mantra and I am glad you follow the same. Raise your voice is very important. I loved your transition. Best wishes!

    Deepika Mishra

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  10. Absolutely, the most significant achievements are the most silent ones. Keep evolving. Best wishes.
    Ruchi https://thevagabond.me

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  11. We certainly do not notice the small accomplishments. "The unseen unrealistic non medal worthy achievements". So true. We need to give ourselves more credit and pat ourselves more. Lovely write up.
    Much love
    Deepika

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  12. What strikes me the most when I read your post is the fact that over the last decade you have evolved most naturally without anyone having to teach you anything. Great achievement that.

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  13. So many of us have made this journey from coy soul to outspoken woman...your journey resonated with me,

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  14. Apart from the major achievements that are commendable, you have been able to easily articulate the silent ones that make a person whole and complete. Life: the great teacher!

    Meena from balconysunrise.wordpress.com

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  15. I loved the theme of this post, milestones need not be always public and visible, lovey piece

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  16. The most significant changes are within ourselves. Your journey presented the wonderful chages in you. Keep writing, Best Wishes.

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  17. I like the way you told that we should pat ourselves. Your post really captured all the changes in you over the last decade

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  18. A decade is full of transition. Glad to know you love gulab jamun and cooking is like Edison's for you. Best wishes :)

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  19. These invisible accomplishments are infact the most important ones. Good to know about you and your journey so far. Congratulations for all the beautiful feathers in your hat. Wishing you more luck and happiness in the next decade !

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  20. It is very true that celebrate even our invisible achievements of life for it makes us better each 😊

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  21. Understanding personalities wow that's an great achievements.
    These invisible achievements had certainly helped make you the person you are today.
    True said no one appreciates the small challenges we overcome, or achievements we make to learn a thing. It's we who realize with time, and after reading & realizing this I applaud for all your small success that improved you in this journey.

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  22. Invisible or visible - I believe in celebrating every achievement.
    It helps to grow a lot as a person.
    I love love gulab jamoons though I have reduced sugar in life, this meetha doesnt allow me to stay away from it.
    Wish you have many sweet moments in your life.

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  23. You are right: the invisible accomplishments, the growth of the person and inner strength that must be acknowledged and celebrated as well. Happy to read a different take on the topic.

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  24. I so loved your beautiful, commendable transition from a coy soul to outspoken one, from silent to voice raiser, for me this is the actual earning from learning, over a decade when we identify and dare to turn our all weaknesses into strengths and get ready to fight back with all the odds. Your are winner True winner Shipra!!

    Archana

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  25. So often we expect change in the outside environment, in the people we encounter on a daily basis, in our family members! When we ourselves change from within then our perception of the outside too changes. But the change in ourselves is hardly noticed nor appreciated most times. What a lovely post which highlighted just this!!
    Radhika Acharya( in case my name doesn't show up😉)

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  26. You are absolutely right about accomplishments.. We only focus on big accomplishments but not on our inner transformation..You have written a beautiful and honest post..Best wishes for more accomplishments..

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  27. I loved the post as it totally resonates with my thoughts. I believe in counting all the blessings and celebrating even the tiniest of victories. Every accomplishment, no matter big or small is a foot forward towards our betterment. Thanks for highlighting this in this inspiring post.

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  28. I agree with you! We forget to celebrate our small achievements and only counts the bigger milestones. High time we all start acknowledging that every step counts. Loved your post for all the positivity! :)

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  29. The above comment is mine - Vartika as I cant see my name there :)

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  30. My best read of the day . To the point and apt

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  31. It's sometimes more challenging to do simple things than scale mountains. Your strength in knowing your limitations and succeeding despite them, is something all of us should aspire to! Lovely post, dearie! <3

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  32. A well written and crisp post, I must say. The smaller invisible accomplishments are the ones that make us more confident and stronger to gain new heights. Many a times these are not noticed by others, but we ourselves should appreciate ourselves and go on to achieve more. Wishing you a great decade ahead

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  33. I am so glad someone wanted to highlight thw tiny things we often overlook - but which go a long way in defining our happiness. Lovely post!

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  34. Your accomplishments are not invisible. Yes, may not accepted one by some . But they do notice that. I appreciate how you took challenge of approaching strangers/ call centres without a layout and stike a conversation and get work done. Even how you learned to ace the perfect layered paratha. You made your base stronger honey. Keep growing.

    ~ Pragnya (www.lifewithmypenguin.com)

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  35. Agatha Christie is credited to have said that one doesn't change, one only discovers news aspects of their personality. I guess this is apt for your journey! You continue to discover newer and ever wonderful aspects of your personality that were hitherto unknown to you! Travel well! Cheers! - Pallavi Acharya

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  36. Loved your attention towards the unseen even unobserved achievements that make a lot of difference to an individual. It makes me want to go back to the drawing board and make a list of my own unseen achievements. Loved the post.

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  37. Way to go Shipra....applause! I struggle to post my blog...to get the SEO right....to edit and upload the pics....these are unsung accomplishments in our lives. Great that u listed them out and everyone will now realize what all they have learnt. You made us think..thank you.

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  38. I have also evolved more or less like you - sustainability, empathy have all come over the years...and it is those invisible accomplishments that help us grow! All good wishes for this decade and beyond!

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  39. I love the term invisible accomplishment Shipra and I agree we learn a lot with changing time. life is a great teacher and it teaches us many important life lessons in his own way. many congrats for great professional achievements and it is also admiring that you are doing great in blogging too, along with managing various personal and professional responsibility.

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  40. Life teaches you so many things which books and classes don't. Again there is no certificate of appreciation for the things you learnt. But they definitely make you a better person. I am glad that you conquered your fears and found your voice.

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  41. I can say that while the visible achievements may seem bigger it is the invisible internal ones that are of value. It is indeed redeeming to sit down once in a while and count your achievements and blessings! Cheers. Rohit Verma

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  42. Visible or invisible - all achievements count . You have learnt to live what else is needed ? Keep counting your strengths . Keep believing in yourself.

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  43. And I love this concept of Visible and invisible anshow beautifully you connected the...

    Wishing you the best

    Keep writing

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  44. Visible or invisible you've done good. Life is all about the lil' joys and achievements! :)

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  45. Wonderful post which emphasizes the need for changes within self. And the need for appreciating the same.

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  46. Manisha - I liked your perspective on the Invisible growth. We all have our ups and downs however how we evolve ourselves through this is more important any other thing. Hope your journey is enriching and inspiring through the next decade :)

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  47. There are so many situations that pushes us to dwell inside and know of many hidden talents within us. This is when we are surprised by own own strength and confidence.
    Wish you loads of luck

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  48. Loved your interesting take on the theme and I agree with you too. With time we change and learn and accomplish but there are always some accomplishments which are invisible but are as valuable as the visible accomplishments in shaping us and making us what we are. Wonderful read!

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  49. I loved it!! Amazinggg!!!

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  50. Sundeep Ananth Dubey (www.rightpurchasing.com)Wednesday, January 29, 2024 12:58:00 pm

    Your transition reminds me of myself and how I changed for the good. I admire your writing and wish you all the best.
    -- rightpurchasing

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  51. It's the smaller achievements that make our life richer. You may call them invisible and they may be so for others, but as long as you see them for what they are - turning points in your life when you did something spectacular - that's all that matters. Wishing the voice-raiser, the sweet-lover, and the impromptu talker in you more such valuable moments of self-discovery in the coming decade.

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  52. Small and insignificant accomplishments only make us strong everyday. Though world never recognizes it but we know what gives us strength. I found this article very unique and honest. Kudos to your efforts.

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  53. Sweet hater to sweet lover! Your post is so very true! Invisible accomplishments can only be felt! Great read... looking forward to more of these kinda posts

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  54. In such a sweet way, you have described all the tiny details of last decade which is mostly common for all of us. But then line sweet hater to sweet lover which attracts me. Lovely post dear

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  55. Shipra, you are so right- we are all aware of the big changes we have seen in life, but never acknowledge the small ones- though they are as important, if not more, than the so-called visible changes! Your post has made me dwell on my ‘invisible’ changes too. Kudos!
    Noor Anand Chawla

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  56. Invisible accomplishments, although hardly talked about, are the real changes in us as a person. The confidence that comes from realising how much we've grown on a personal level is truly priceless. I'm glad you're becoming a better version of yourself!

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  57. How wonderful of you to appreciate the invisible learner within us. Your accomplishments resonated with me. I feel more proud of myself after reading your outlook towards these invisible accomplishments.

    Thank you for writing this post and helpin me to look towards a part of my own self which needs to be applauded because it has made me accomplish what the world can see.

    Kudos to your accomplishments both visible and invisible!

    #readbypreetispanorama

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  58. A frank and wise post. We all talk about what we achieved and brush our failures under the carpet. Thanks for sharing your recap of the past decade so honestly with us. Wishing you the best for the next one.
    Mayuri/Sirimiri

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  59. Ah, this post made me nostalgic for my no make up self as well :) Past failures are just future lessons in the making. good post.

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  60. And these invisible achievements are the real ones. I am sure it has given you much more self satisfaction compared to your visible achievements 🙂

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  61. If we have realization power then naturally we will be better person with time, good to know about your changes.

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  62. Sometimes, when we appreciate the small things and people in our lives, the whole purpose of our existence changes at once. Loved reading your journey from a silent observer to a Voice raiser.

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    1. Thank you Airshwarya. The change happened for a good cause and I am proud of it.

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  63. A beautiful journey and fully lived. It was surely a decade filled with everything for you. Keep writing

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  64. Gulab Jamuns are my favorite but yes I have cut down on them drastically. It's great to see that you are aware of your invisible achievements also... Otherwise there are people who spend their entire lifetime without realizing the changes that have occurred in them. Keep it up ����

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