A Quote That Changed My Life

The very thought of being away from my son all day long sometimes makes me feel low. Being a working woman, I seldom feel that my responsibilities as a mother remain overlooked. The talks of some non-working friends & family ladies add more to this worry of mine. Some of them never worked and many of them had to leave their jobs in order to fulfill the responsibility as a mother. My life often takes me to the thought of becoming a homemaker so that I can stay at home all the time for my son. However, at the same moment, I also realize my responsibility towards my family which includes my in-laws and my aging parents who need financial support from me. My role of being a working woman allows me to share the financial responsibilities of my husband. I have worked against all odds to make a career. So, how can I abandon all this? But should I not take better care of my family?

When my boys was an infant, I saw him playing and enjoying with the family living in my neighborhood. He loved visiting them. Possibly because I was not available for him at home. The generous lady from my neighborhood took good care of my son when I was in office. One day she showed me scratches on my son’s neck, they were making him feel uncomfortable. Those scratches were the result of the tight knot of the scarf which my mother in law made her grandson wear. Being a mother I felt guilty for ignoring my son’s trouble with his scarf.

Then I saw my son enjoying the company of other kids in my office daycare. I used to take him there every day. One day I found him wearing pants in such a way that its zip was on the back side. The nanny of the daycare carelessly made the little boy wear pants uncomfortably that he was not able to sit. When I asked him to sit next to me in the bus and he denied, I noticed that the zip and buttons were pricking on his bums. There are many such moments when I felt leaving my job just for my son. I found myself responsible of my son's troubles.

With some dilemmas and guilt feelings, I was trying my best to be there for my boy as much as I can. Those were difficult days but one day I read something on a website and it suddenly did magic for me. I read a quote "Thanks to my job, I get a chance to miss my kids and love them more."

This quote took me out of the dilemma of setting priority between my son and my career. I realized that it is really a wonder of my job that I miss my son all day and my family gets a chance to miss me as well :). Had I been available for them all the time, the so-called importance of me for my family and their importance for me, would not have been this much. I also thanked my job that allows all of us a separation of a few hours (actually good 8 hours) and increases our love for each other immensely.

Sometimes we get consumed by our own negative thoughts of doom and gloom. But even a small reading like a quote helps us to come out of it. I have read many books in the past and every day I read different posts and articles. However, that single line quote did a miracle for me two years back. And its effect is still in work. Now my son goes to school. He has clearly understood and going for work is an important thing for his mumma. He doesn't make any fuss when I go to work leaving him at home on his holidays. I miss him in office and he misses me being home. This increases our love multiple times day by day. When I come back, we value each other so much with forgetting that we were separated for hours.

“THIS POST IS WRITTEN FOR NOVEMBERSCHILD IN ASSOCIATION WITH KALAMPEDIA - QUEST FOR KNOWLEDGE”. The topic is prompt 3.