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A Quote That Changed My Life

A Quote That Changed My Life - Vibhu & Me
The very thought of being away from my son all day long sometimes makes me feel low. Being a working woman, I seldom feel that my responsibilities as a mother remain overlooked. The talks of some non-working friends & family ladies add more to this worry of mine. Some of them never worked and many of them had to leave their jobs in order to fulfill the responsibility as a mother. My life often takes me to the thought of becoming a homemaker so that I can stay at home all the time for my son. However, at the same moment, I also realize my responsibility towards my family which includes my in-laws and my aging parents who need financial support from me. My role of being a working woman allows me to share the financial responsibilities of my husband. I have worked against all odds to make a career. So, how can I abandon all this? But should I not take better care of my family?

When my boys was an infant, I saw him playing and enjoying with the family living in my neighborhood. He loved visiting them. Possibly because I was not available for him at home. The generous lady from my neighborhood took good care of my son when I was in office. One day she showed me scratches on my son’s neck, they were making him feel uncomfortable. Those scratches were the result of the tight knot of the scarf which my mother in law made her grandson wear. Being a mother I felt guilty for ignoring my son’s trouble with his scarf.

Then I saw my son enjoying the company of other kids in my office daycare. I used to take him there every day. One day I found him wearing pants in such a way that its zip was on the back side. The nanny of the daycare carelessly made the little boy wear pants uncomfortably that he was not able to sit. When I asked him to sit next to me in the bus and he denied, I noticed that the zip and buttons were pricking on his bums. There are many such moments when I felt leaving my job just for my son. I found myself responsible of my son's troubles.

With some dilemmas and guilt feelings, I was trying my best to be there for my boy as much as I can. Those were difficult days but one day I read something on a website and it suddenly did magic for me. I read a quote "Thanks to my job, I get a chance to miss my kids and love them more."

This quote took me out of the dilemma of setting priority between my son and my career. I realized that it is really a wonder of my job that I miss my son all day and my family gets a chance to miss me as well :). Had I been available for them all the time, the so-called importance of me for my family and their importance for me, would not have been this much. I also thanked my job that allows all of us a separation of a few hours (actually good 8 hours) and increases our love for each other immensely.

A Quote That Changed My Life - Vibhu & Me
Sometimes we get consumed by our own negative thoughts of doom and gloom. But even a small reading like a quote helps us to come out of it. I have read many books in the past and every day I read different posts and articles. However, that single line quote did a miracle for me two years back. And its effect is still in work. Now my son goes to school. He has clearly understood and going for work is an important thing for his mumma. He doesn't make any fuss when I go to work leaving him at home on his holidays. I miss him in office and he misses me being home. This increases our love multiple times day by day. When I come back, we value each other so much with forgetting that we were separated for hours.

“THIS POST IS WRITTEN FOR NOVEMBERSCHILD IN ASSOCIATION WITH KALAMPEDIA – QUEST FOR KNOWLEDGE”. The topic is prompt 3.
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  1. It is amazing how a quote helped coming out of the guilt. Its true sometimes distance (for short time though) enhances the relationship.

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  2. its amazing..I do rely on quotes to pull me up.

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  3. hey shipra, I can relate myself to your blog. I left my well-settled job for the sake and happiness of my daughter.. However, being a blogger now, I feel I am more happy as I with my kids, and also financially stable.

    #MyFriendAlexa
    #LovelyReads.

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  4. We face guilt in any situation. Housewives worry about losing themselves and their identity. Working women often encounters guilt trap of not being able to give enough time to kids. I guess at the end one should accept the situation he is in. Destiny should be respected.

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  5. I think I am going into this phase where I see everyday how being always available is hampering the wellbeing of myself and those around me. Your fav quote has made so much impact on me too. Nice to read your posts - after a long time. :)

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  6. I can so understand the guilt you talk about, Shipra. At the same time, the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. There is a good in everything and a small thing like the quote you found can help us shift our perspective back to the positive.

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  7. Loved the write up and bring a working mom.i can so relate to you. ☺️ Thanks for bringing the quote to my attention I am sure it's going to help me ☺️

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  8. Beautiful thought, loved the write up. Not a parent but can somewhat understand how it must be

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  9. Can totally understand your emotions in this post. A perfect balance is hard to maintain but when you hit the sweet spot, it's blissful :)

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  10. Though it is a beautiful quote and we all live in a world where we have to work to prove ourselves, I was wondering that is it important to miss your family/loved ones to love them more or rather be with them when you can?

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  11. Absolutely! Choosing to work or not is a personal decision and one should not be guilty of one's choices. In a way, I also agree that a little bit of distance is necessary too.

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  12. As aaworking mom, i think I needed to read this. Thanks. It's difficult to find the balance in your aspirations and home, but not impossible.

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  13. This is truly a powerful post. It is difficult for the mommies to find a balance between work and managing kids.
    #MyFriendAlexa #zenithbuzzreads

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  14. I face the same guilt, and thank you for sharing the quote - it makes so much sense! Love & gratitude!

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  15. What a wonderful and thought provoking post. Though after having my kid I never worked full time, yet I can understand the emotions attached to your post...

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  16. So true. I have always believed working mums get a toughet deal as xompcomp to SAHM. The constant need to strike a balance is overwhelming.

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  17. Sometimes some quotes leave a mark on us. I'm glad you saw the positive outcome in this and continue to do both your jobs!! Cheers!

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  18. Your post made me smile. Reminded of my woking days and my elder one would stay at the daycare till evening. No regrets!! #surreads #myfriendalexa #blogchatter

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  19. A beautiful post, quote help us to see the world in different way

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  20. Amazing and beautiful post. This is so inspiring story.

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  21. As a working mom myself, I loved reading this post!

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  22. A unique quote to choose but definitely one that makes a lot of sense.

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  23. Being a mother we know guilt is a part of motherhood journey. Anything that fills your life with positive thoughts should be cherished just like this quote.

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