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On your second marriage with cell phone


I see a problem with today’s husbands that they are cell phone addicted. And this disease is spreading like anything. In last 15 years, the cell phone has conquered our world. And quest of smartphones has made them more powerful. I could make a list of 50 ways these phones have improved our lives. But if you’re like me and can remember what life was like before we all got cell phones, you may wonder if all the changes are really for the good. Remember the days when we were not having phones. We used to enjoy outings, visits to relatives, movies without having thoughts of updating selfies and photos. We used to be serious in work without being distracted by ringing phones or by the white glow of someone texting next to us.

Adjusting to new technologies is not new for people. Electricity, TV, phones, computers, and many other new inventions have brought significant changes in our lives and in the way we related to our spouses, our children, and our friends.  But the pace these new technologies are taking is breathtaking. We’ve seen the evolution of the internet and of smartphones, and then the convergence of the two. We can now be online wherever we are, 24/7. The technology is updating itself so quickly that most of us are barely aware of how our behaviour is changing and our relationships are getting affected. In fact, Smartphone is Ruining our Relationships.

My husband's day starts with checking facebook, twitter, WhatsApp and different news feed. As if, his friend would get angry if he doesn’t reply them. He even doesn't talk to us (our son and me) until he checks all his morning updates. This mostly happens on weekends and on holidays. While he still checks his phone, I silently make a tea and give him right on the bed. After checking everything on his phone, he comes to the living room and talks to us  During any typical day whenever he gets time, he peeps over his cell phone, checks updates and replies them. He even shares with me good posts and jokes at times. And no wonder his day ends with checking updates, again. His discussion groups not only forward jokes and images but also do chats about our country’s politics. And my husband never misses a chance to join the burning discussions happening there. Whenever he gets free time, rather than using that for doing more creative stuff, my husband prefers to check his twitter. At times I found him playing all and every video post on his Facebook timelines.

So to all husbands, it’s not that the technology is inherently bad. It actually helps us connect with many people in positive ways. The problem is that many of you are failing to ignore and control it. It’s as if you are married to your cell phones. 
So I would suggest, no device while having dinner, no phones at the bed and no phone while spending time with family.  When you are with someone, that relationship is your priority. Retraining to keep yourself away from cell phone will take some time. But keeping them in their rightful place will open up the door to more intimate communication with your spouse and family.If you can’t live without a gadget throw it away.  If a gadget is engrossing most of your leisure time, the rule of thumb- throw it away!

A message for my husband: Life is too short dear. Let’s not invest that little time in meaningless endeavours. Let’s spend this precious time in loving and caring more to our family and to each other. 
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