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शादी करना फायदेमंद है या नुकसानदायक?

आजकल शादियों का सीजन चल रहा है. जहाँ देखो किसी ना किसी की शादी हो रही है. मेरे अपने ही परिवार में दो बेटियों की शादियाँ है इसी हफ्ते. ऑफिस में भी शादियों के निमंत्रण मिल रहे है. पर ऐसे ही मेरे दिमाग में ख्याल आया कि जब शादी जी का जंजाल है और हर शादीशुदा आदमी (ज्यादातर) और औरत यही कहती है कि शादी का लडडू ना खाया जा पा रहा है और ना निगला फिर अगला हर कोई शादी के लिए क्यों तैयार हो जाता है? ख़ुशी ख़ुशी शादी करने वाले बाद में एक दूसरे की कमियां निकालने में ज्यादा समय लगाते है. और बीच-बीच में वो अपना संजीदा डायलॉग भी बोल देते है एक दूसरे को "तुमसे शादी करके जिंदगी की सबसे बड़ी गलती की है मैंने.."

अब लोग शादी क्यों करते है इसके पीछे कई कारण हो सकते है. कुछ प्यार में अंधे होकर शादी करते है. कुछ समाज और घर वालो के दबाव में कर डालते है. कुछ ऐसे भी है जो दहेज़ के लालच में शादी का लडडू निगल लेते है और बाकी बचे लोगो को सुधारने के लिए उनके घर वाले किसी और के मत्थे मढ़ देते है मतलब शादी करा देते है कही. आम तौर पर लोग समाज और घर वालो के दबाव में शादी करते है और फिर जब भी शादी के बाद झगड़ा होता ह…

Thoughtful Gifts for the Men in Your Life

Giving a gift to your special ones is something that should not be a chore. It must come from your heart. Making someone feel special is more than enough reason to make you give more. It tells the receiver that you were thinking about them.

Three, the most important men in my life are my father, my husband and my son. For three of them, I thoughtfully juggle my mind and finally select the best gift. Buying gift for my father and for my son has always been easy for me. For the little master, being a mother, I can buy things that I pretty well know He Wants and I Want for Him. So that's always my call. For my father, I have a long list of items that he longed for in his life but due to other important family expenses, he couldn't buy them. He was the sole earning person of the family and being a responsible father and husband, he always gave his wishes least importance. He is an ideal father, I must say. So when needed, I pick one such item from that "wish list" and gif…

How to clean toys and stop your kids getting sick

With a baby at home, we try to take extra caution when it's about cleanliness. We keep our houses clean, the floor gets mopping many times and bed-sheet gets changing timely. We sanitize baby clothes after washing with detergent. We use good quality dish wash to keep germs away from baby's feeding utensils. But we often overlook baby's toys. Babies are constantly touching toys, putting their hands over them (whether clean or dirty) and many times take toys in their mouths so they can pick up germs and diseases easily. Washing and disinfecting toys help reduce the spread of germs, especially when many children are together. This means we can reduce the possibility of our babies getting sick by keeping baby's toys clean.

There are two basic steps to cleaning baby toys:  1. Cleaning: Most simple way of cleaning toys. Scrubbing with soap and warm water can reduce germs from the toys. It also removes the grease and grime. 2. Sanitizing: A sanitizing solution is needed for thi…

The Responsibility of Teaching Ethics to Our Children

A few days back, a shocking news made its place on the front page of almost every newspaper across the country. It was regarding the conviction of a class eleven child in charge of murdering a class two schoolmate. Putting to rest the questions over the intelligence of case investigators, the child confessed his crime too. Such incidents raise serious questions over the diminishing input of moral values in the children.
Children are, as we know, like we clay, who can be molded in any shape with the nurturing. The good and evil both encounter these little heroes every day when they face the world outside. From the neighbours to the school bus driver, from the school friends to the house help and from the teachers to family members everyone leaves their impression on your child every day. In such case, what the child should learn and should not learn from them needs to be managed.

I remember, how little bedtime stories had a deep impact on my thoughts and deeds which my parents or grand…

Insta Mothers, how you post such perfect shots?

Social media is no longer a time-pass thing engaging only those who have leisure time after work. I know many people who are running their businesses on social media only making it a professional engagement too. They endorse their skills, products and business offerings here. For instance, many of the mommies I am in touch with are mommy-bloggers who use social media to promote their blogs. This has also become a profession for many of them who get paid for their blogs’ content and promotion. Social media also brings many other paid opportunities for people who have the desired kind of talent in them. My changed view about social platforms encouraged me to develop my social wings too.

My raising social wings made me join Instagram recently. I followed many on Insta, mostly the fellow mothers, who are already popular Insta mothers. Honestly, I am a bit not set in posting my updates on this new platform as I am used to of posting my thoughts in clearly stated textual form instead of pos…

Vidya wants to give a wonderful message to all Housewives from the movie "Tumhari Sulu"

Have you seen the trailer of "Tumhari Sulu"? I think you must have and today the movie has released as well. After Padmawati, the next film that I am following bit time is this super talented Vidya Balan's flick. Ever since the trailer was released, Vidya is promoting her film with heart and soul. When I saw her candid interview on NDTV show, I was quite impressed by her way of thinking. Now I'll be honest in saying that when for the first time, I saw the trailer of Tmhrai Sulu and understood its theme, I was not much impressed. A wife, a mother of a tween child is talking sensually in a late night radio show, seems little inane for me. "Saari Wali Bhabhi Late Night Show". However, as Vidya started promoting her film on different channels and shows, I find myself taken towards the real intent of this film. The resolute that Vidya wants us to see and expect from the film is really a heartfelt message. "Mai kar skti hai..(I can do anything)."
In th…

Are we doing enough for our future generations?

At least now I accept that we humans are greedy beings. The fact that investing in the environment is not going to give any personal return is the reason most of us are reluctant towards this. If we plant a tree, the oxygen it would produce for us will not be debited into our personal accounts so that we can use it whenever we need. This is the most unfortunate thing with our environment as far as I believe because had this not been the case, all of us would have invested in the environment by now. I had got to know from trustworthy readings that one tree is equal to twenty Air conditioners when it comes to soothing us in summers. However, buying an AC is a personal investment we make. We get it installed for personal use and consume the benefits.
We are some 1.25 lakh crore people. If mere 0.01% of us plant a tree on a day, there will be a clean safe environment for all of us. I believe this is the only solution. I have noticed few concerned people investing in indoor plants and I r…

4 Ways To Teach Your Kids Important Money Lessons

I am raised in a family where every single penny spent was carefully thought of. My parents always planned their expenses very well with writing down how and when they spent a big amount. Even on petty expenses, my mother was very watchful. Their hard earned savings were always mapped to our more important needs like education, treatment, marriage, etc. As I grew up seeing them, I understood the importance of savings and how it could be instrumental in fulfilling our dreams and aspirations. Thanks to my parent’s savings, I received a good education which landed me a well- paying job in a reputed company. That's why I feel every child should learn good money habits like saving,  careful plannings and executions from the very beginning of his/her life.

Given how important financial skills are to navigating life, it is surprising that our schools don’t teach kids about money. So as parents, it is our job to teach our kids these important financial lessons. I also feel, that my better…

To, Dear Child in me…

Hello,

Dear child in me..

First of all, Happy Children's Day..

You are an awesome personality. The way you look upon the world is just wow. Your way of talking, laughing, playing and not being judgemental at all make you really special. It is the quality of easily forgiving and letting it go in you that I always attempt to copy. Being such unaware of frowns or frauds is a blessing you have. You are a free person as your thoughts never bothered to go along with the theory of scare resources. You have it all which is why you are the most cherished part of my life.

 I am writing to you today because I am missing you. I seriously believe that life is the way you do. The phase in my life when you lead me I had a wonderful life. Mine was a stress-free life though I was not even educated enough to get a job. I was playful and joyful from within. I still feel like playing with a balloon, though I need to save those pennies for some other use which may be more practical and sensible. I st…

Making Memories for My Son

We all have our favourite childhood memories and we love to recall them again and again. A few months back when I was at my mother’s place, my mother started telling me my childhood incidences noticing my son’s naughtiness. Although she has told me those tales many times yet I love listening to them more and more. When she was telling me how she spent those five days when I, as a newborn, was in the hospital, I realized that all my childhood memories are around my parents only. I find no one else in my memory clouds when I look back, although I used to die for many other family members. A Facebook post saying “Kids don’t remember their best day of television” suddenly flashed in front of me.  And then my guilt trip started thinking am I giving enough memories to my son for his future?
I feel all SAH mothers are really lucky that they are participating in making beautiful memories for their kids. But for mothers like me who are working, the story is different. Working mothers don’t spe…