It was international Men’s
day yesterday. We hear a lot of buzz about celebrating women’s day every year
but why not people aware of any such day or they look interested in celebrating
Men’s day? Last year also, I blogged about this day but that was very specific
to thanking my husband for being the second best man in my life. The first one
is, of course, my father. This year, I want to express my thoughts on how the
tussle of gender and rights equality is changing the picture of MEN in our
society.
On women’s day everything
from shops for markets, from offices to online stores, goes pink. They
give discounts and even insurance schemes pop up for the welfare of women. This
year in my office, every female employee got a pink rose with a women’s day
card. There was even a small party only for women employees. That was really so
much! Men might have different interests and pink roses are not their kinds.
But where is their recognition Today I shared with one of
my friends that it’s Men’s day tomorrow and her next reaction was “Every day is
Men’s Day in India.” Although I agree on some point that circumstances
are bit more difficult for women in our country. But this doesn’t mean the
average man don’t face any struggle as the average women fronts every day.
I feel, with chasing
equality, we,women, have started hating manhood. And in the back of our minds,
we have shifted the blame on men for not getting equal rights (when needed) in
society. Women these days try to prove themselves equally able and empowered
everywhere as men are. However, we are so insecure that we can’t allow sick or injured
MAN inside metro’s ladies coach. Women passengers can even throw a man
out of a moving train for boarding a women’s special train. Was that a fight
for gender equality?
The stereotyping of men
today has reached to a questionable level, which sometimes looks scary to me. I
agree, some of them are still stereotyped. But I find most men having a caring,
protecting, helping and respecting nature these days. I know it’s a big point
of debate whether men are responsible for the condition of women in our country
or not. But with standing for getting my rights as a woman, I also want to
stand in support of men’s rights. We talk so much about the abuses a
female child goes through. But very less we discuss the abuses that a male
child faces. We assume only a woman is not allowed to get higher education or
pursue a career. This happens to men as well. This is cruel that the society
throws at men for many reasons which may or may not apply always. On the other
side, a common man slaves at work and fights an inner battle to cope up with
the targets the society sets for men. And even in relationships, they are
getting cheated often these days. As per researches, a married male is killing
himself every 9 minutes. I see every reason to worry and get more vocal about
the flaws in dowry and domestic violence laws which now getting heavily used
against men by wives. These false cases have a sharp rise in last few years.
But don’t you think a life is a life, be it a man or a woman?
Since ages, we have been
debating over our men oriented society. But this doesn’t mean we should not
applaud for our fathers, husbands, brothers or other roles that men are playing
around us. See, it is not about celebrating masculinity. It is
celebrating the other half in our lives. Men have an equal part and importance
in making this world. There is no need to be overly insecure. Not every man is
a marauder around there. A rapist or a chauvinist cannot define who a man is.
So let’s celebrate this Men’s day for those men who are good, the men who wish
to walk hand in hand, and not go ahead or follow. Let’s come forward and show
some love and respect for men. Life would be indeed unreasonable without them.
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