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Secret Smoking is Affecting your Relationships.. To All men who smoke

"Smoking is extremely dangerous". We all know this very well and thanks to our government and laws which never let us forget any bit of it. We can see this message in red-bold everywhere, even at the cigarettes boxes as well. But why men from our society still find it difficult to understand? OR, if they understand it's negative effects then why they can't quit it? The health community has succeeded so well in convincing us of the dangers of smoking for our health. But another fact that no law can rationalize about smoking is it kills relationships.
As smoking out in the open becomes less acceptable in homes, offices, and other public places, people started "secret smoking" which is a new kind of part-time smoking and increasingly common on the current scene. Many husbands and fathers are also into this secret smoking thing. They utterly know that smoking in front of family members is not a healthy and civilized thing so they smoke secretly and try to hide it with mouth fresheners or chewing-gums. But sadly they fail to hide it completely because their hands and clothes scream that they just smoked. My blog is for all those fathers and husbands who still smoke knowing the fact that their families hate it. And with it, they are giving slow poison to their valuable relationships. Wives fear what would happen to their families if husbands fall sick. Kids fear how they would pass their lives with ailing fathers.
The process of smoking in secret is two-sided. On the side, smokers are "sparing" their loved ones, who would be upset to see them smoke. On the other hand, they are "sparing" themselves from acknowledging the guilt which smoking brings to them. Despite the fact that they know it's unhealthy, filthy and nasty, they are not able to give it up or they don’t want to try their best. Smoking not only affects their relationship with family and friends but it affects their relationship with themselves and their own bodies. Wives try to change their husbands in the name of their love but mostly fail. They also try to make them understand its side-effects on their kids. But no matter what family members do, smokers find a way to prove it 'not that fatal' by limiting the no of cigarettes.  
With due respect to their personal space and habits, I want to ask a few questions to all those men who are fathers, husbands, and smokers also. Do you know what are the consequences of engaging in this hidden behavior (secret smoking) that your spouse and kids are so against? Why do families want you to stop smoking? If you fail to answer, let me tell you because your family members love you a lot! They want to see you all healthy and happy. They want to avoid any such moment when you don’t feel best of your spirit. Your family members value your life so much.
As I don’t smoke, I might not understand the challenges of quitting this habit. However, all I want to say to all such men who smoke, “make your life better by going smoke-free”. With your secret smoking, you are letting your loved ones down even without noticing. I know it’s difficult but not impossible. Please consider it for your family!
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