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I admit for the fact that
it was not “love at first sight” for me when I met my husband. And I know that
it never was for my husband. It was not like any fairy tale that he saw me
through some window and decided that I was the one made for him. The idea of
soul mate seems more suitable for movies and poetries where love eventually
leads to becoming a soul mate for anyone. Of course, this is my perception and
I respect those who believe in the ideology of finding soul mates. I know my
husband since my childhood. But it was not a childhood love in our case. As the
time unfolded and our circumstances brought us closer, we realized that it was
a relationship more than just an old friendship. And we got married.
Early in our marriage, I
and my husband were thrown into situations where we found our relationship
slipping like desert. Those days were neither romantic nor easy for us. As life
went further, we experienced tough nearness challenges and road blocks. And those
days forced us to be very clear-cut and stony. Our initial "ugly
love" made us so real with each other which is not at all like we see in
movies or on social media. We didn't romance like new couples, we didn't go on
frequent dates and dinners, we didn't post pictures on social media and we
didn't try to flatter each other. But 'we were in love' and soon we
realized that those few gloomy and backstage moments eventually made us good
performers on front site. These moments when we criticized and supported each
other, created a strong backbone to strengthen our partnership. Although it was
difficult but I don't want to erase those days from my life. They have become
part of our love story. From that time, I started looking a silver line
behind every ugly moment.
I feel there is no as such
definition of who is a soul mate. Movies and stories never go beyond finding a
true soul mate. Sometimes happen when a person is so much in love with someone,
yet somehow, someway, totally unhappy. There are lots of adjustments,
compromises and problems come in syncing love and commitment. We are not
perfect. Circumstance can change what we feel for anyone even if that person is
the most loved one. So rather than saying that I have found soul mate of my
life, I would like to say that I have found a person who can love me even if I
am wrong. And He is my husband. This doesn’t mean I always expect him to be cheesy
and doing lovely talks. We are in real trek and we face challenges of thinking
differently. At times we argue and end our day on a bitter note. But soon we
clear our misunderstanding and move on. For me, this is more than becoming soul
mates. And yes, it may not feel as fanciful as the movies make it, but
according to science, happiness and long-lasting love come with trial and
error, ups and downs, and a ton of rewards.
Shipra, it's a honest take on soulmates and agree that there is no universal definition as endorsed in a glamor style. Every relationships has its ups and downs which define the love shared by couples in the growing years. A great take on soulmates.
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Hi Vishal, thanks for appreciating my point of view.
ReplyDeleteTotally honest and heartfelt!
ReplyDeleteHey Thanks Sara..I glad that you liked my views..
DeleteWhat a practical approach! Ups and downs are two sides of every relation. You have hit it right, none is perfect.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Rajashree..I tried to take inspiration from my own life and here comes a fact :)
DeleteWonderfully expressed, Shipra:)
ReplyDeleteMay the good times last forever.
Thank you Anita :)
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