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9.5 Reasons why I am a better person now

If anyone asks me to describe my pregnancy in one word, I would say it was "amazing". Amazing because it has changed the deepest end of my soul. Some days that amazement was more about how I could be so emotional and unwell, and still expected to go office and work at home, but overall it was by a little human being who was growing inside me. I was astonished to see my body's ability to handle so many things even being pregnant. I was also amazed at the changes in me. Beyond the obvious, physical things that no one can ignore, I changed for better as a person after my pregnancy. I’m not saying that I was a jerk until I got pregnant but I had spent 28 years of my life  mostly taking care of myself and worrying about my career.
Here are some of the points which can prove how I am a better person after becoming a Mother:
Point 1: I now appreciate my mother so much. After becoming a mother, I realized the challenges that a mother faces in handing baby, first when it is inside and then when the baby comes outside. I finally understood the depths of what my parents have gone through all these years. I even have a greater appreciation for all my loved ones now.
Point 2 : I now can handle people vomiting next to me. Honestly, I am more humble for sick people now. I puked so much during my pregnancy and I found people helping me in those difficult public situations. This has really changed my heart. I am more generous and noble with people now.
Point 3 : Love is of three types : Love, worship, and Relinquishment. I now have a true understanding of unconditional love which is type 3 on this list. To surrender is the most difficult nature, isn't it? This love is the purest as we don't expect anything in return. And the most wonderful thing is, only a Mother has this love for her Babies. It is really a gift to be able to feel this way for another human.
Point 4 : I’m more sensitive towards the needs of others. Sometimes I am too sensitive (I admit) and thanks to those hormones that have changed my body and my nature. These feelings, since I got pregnant, have made me a more considerate wife, daughter, sister, and friend.
Point 5 : After becoming a mother, you need to master one important thing. LET GO. After getting pregnant, I have learned to let go of the little things. I was never a control freak but now my priorities have changed and shifted more towards my family. Is my family safe and healthy? All Is Well. Everything else is just gravy.
Point 6 :  I have slowed down and this is for good reasons. Immediate action for everything makes every mother stressed and tired. So if the house is dirty, clean it in a slow pace. If guests are coming, slow down, shorten the menu and work easily. I don't seek perfection. Rather I focus on fixing things. It’s such a relaxing and much less stressful way of living life.
Point 7 : I am now careful for wasting food. I have even started making good food choices so that I can stay healthy and wastage is minimum. As I am more empathetic towards people, wasting food makes me think about those street people who are facing challenges of getting food to eat. I am grateful to my life that I have enough food for my family but I don't want them to throw this essential thing.
Point 8 : Somehow I see every child lovable now.Whether it's about my son or any other baby. I feel love for babies in my friend circle and neighborhood. I even feel pain for babies who beg on the street. If possible, I try to give them something ( I refrain from giving money) which I can bring smiles on their faces. So I always keep extra biscuits or fruits in my bag so that I can give it to such kids.
Point 9 : I have started taking my body seriously. I care for each discomfort and strange bodily condition, and take action for it. I want to stay fit and healthy so that I can enjoy each moment of my life with my son. So I am more aware and informed now.
Point 9 1/2 : My house is cleaner now.Okay, this one is just for fun so it only counts as half on the list. I now try to keep my house clean and sanitized because of health reasons. But sometimes we can't avoid the mess and it happens in my house also! But again I try to keep it tidy with best of my slow and mindful efforts.
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