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More than a soul mate for me..

‘This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.’
I admit for the fact that it was not “love at first sight” for me when I met my husband. And I know that it never was for my husband. It was not like any fairy tale that he saw me through some window and decided that I was the one made for him. The idea of soul mate seems more suitable for movies and poetries where love eventually leads to becoming a soul mate for anyone. Of course, this is my perception and I respect those who believe in the ideology of finding soul mates. I know my husband since my childhood. But it was not a childhood love in our case. As the time unfolded and our circumstances brought us closer, we realized that it was a relationship more than just an old friendship. And we got married.
Early in our marriage, I and my husband were thrown into situations where we found our relationship slipping like desert. Those days were neither romantic nor easy for us. As life went fur…

My Love Story

I know my husband, Mr N, since my childhood, when I was 4 and he was 8 years old. We were family friends. But I realized his love for me when I was 26. I guess my wisdom tooth is responsible for it. It came so late.  


We used to live in the same colony and our 2-room flats were also nearby. Because of this, our families used to visit each other frequently.  I remember my mother-in-law used to come to my mother for new designs of sweaters. MrN used to be an average- looks guy and his dressing sense was like 10 years older than his age. His love for comic books was the first thing which attracted me towards him. Mr N used to collect comics from his friends and used to offer me for reading. I enjoyed this comic reading until I reached in 9th standard. Now comic reading stopped but he continued to come to my house. We used to talk about studies, food, songs and other happenings. We grew together and being older than me, he joined his professional course when I was in graduation first year.…

Forward and get good luck in return

A few days back, something happened with me that made my faith even stronger on my thinking about social media. “Don’t follow it blindly.” Last week on Thursday morning, I woke up and started checking my piled up WhatsApp messages. One message because of its strange assertion made me sore instantly. “Forward it to 5 more groups immediately and get good luck in return. If you ignore, this will cost you so much.”  I really abhor such messages. And similar ones on Facebook where they claim a bad luck if people don’t hit like on them. Then my morning chaos started and I got lost in getting ready for office along with my son. After reaching office and dropping my son at his daycare, I jumped upon my breakfast. While having it, I was watching the news on TVs which are placed in my office cafeteria. And no wonder there was a single topic flooding on every of the new channel, Currency ban. I want to write a separate blog on how I see this Demonetization. But for the current story, I am sticking…

My Best Birthday Ever

‘This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.’
Ever since my childhood, I love to celebrate my birthday. During my school time, I used to call my school friends at home for the celebration. My mother used to cook delicious food (Chole, Puri, Kheer etc..) for us. She is the best cook honestly. I used to get new clothes as well and that was all about celebrating a birthday. No concept of cake at all. Actually, the cake was very rare among the families around us.  A few years later my younger sister started demanding cake on her birthdays. She is the youngest member of our family and no one wanted her to feel unhappy so my parents accepted this. And cake cutting used to happen only on her birthdays.  After I got married, first my husband’s birthday came and I celebrated it with so much of enthusiasm. Next month it was my birthday and seriously, I was so excited and curious how my husband was going to surprise me. My husband loves writing an…

There is An International Men's Day Too.

It was international Men’s day yesterday. We hear a lot of buzz about celebrating women’s day every year but why not people aware of any such day or they look interested in celebrating Men’s day? Last year also, I blogged about this day but that was very specific to thanking my husband for being the second best man in my life. The first one is, of course, my father. This year, I want to express my thoughts on how the tussle of gender and rights equality is changing the picture of MEN in our society.
On women’s day everything from shops for markets, from offices to online stores, goes pink.  They give discounts and even insurance schemes pop up for the welfare of women. This year in my office, every female employee got a pink rose with a women’s day card. There was even a small party only for women employees. That was really so much! Men might have different interests and pink roses are not their kinds. But where is their recognition Today I shared with one of my friends that it’s Men…

Why today's parents are educating their daughters?

It is undoubtedly a fact that educated women spend a better life. And the benefits to education are not restricted to being financially strong and living a good life, better-educated women are more likely to have healthier, better-educated kids. So today’s parents are providing good education to their daughters and encouraging them to unleash their potential. However, is this only reason parents are working hard to educate their daughters? I feel, with a booming economy, increasing groom prices and dowry harassment have become the weighty reasons why parents are trying their best to provide higher education to their daughters. I am not saying that parents don’t want to see their daughters settled and financially strong even when they are not married. But Dowry is still prevalent in many parts of our country. Still, happens where parents claim that their daughter is being killed by her in-laws for dowry. A few days back only I read the news where a 20 years old girl in Odisha was killed…

A new outlook towards a Divorce

Recently we heard Angelia Jolly splitting from her husband Brad Pitt, using the term “irreconcilable differences,” And I find whole media and a bunch of feminist bloggers going wild over writing about it. “Is this a correct step when you have half a dozen kids? “, “Reason revealed, Brad is having an EXTRA marital affair.” Many more verdicts came out when the crowd saw a celebrity couple getting divorced. While some of them appreciated this step for coming out of a disturbing marriage. Most people scoff them off for using a new-age approach to what is necessarily a dark, painful life event, a divorce.


The demise of a long relationship is really a sad step and its effect on kids and other family member is obviously a negative thing. But I feel with time we have advanced over each and every aspect of living except separation from a life partner. As our thinking and lifestyles are getting cutting-age, people are getting open in every matter. They are open in expressing their life choices. …

I want those days back..

‘This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.’

I have plentiful of childhood memories that I can even write a whole book about them. All my sweet and salty memories are around my family and my friends. I often narrate those stories (even repeatedly) to my husband and get nostalgic. What a time that was!
A funny incidence I remember is when I got lost in a crowded fair. It was a village fair which used to be so big that reaching home from there was kind of impossible for a 6 years old kid. I somehow managed to reach my grandparent’s home with taking help from a milk man. He made me sit on his cycle and dropped to my grandparent’s place.  My parents spent whole 2 hours searching for me anxiously there. Phones were very rare those days so they came back to my grandparent’s home hopelessly. I was already there and as Amma(my mother) found me sitting inside, she hugged me and thanked God loudly. I was as selfish as a child; I was feeling happy…

#ChildrensDay A story for touching your heart

"Hey, young lady! What are you doing?  Don’t touch those flowers." Asked Mr. Sharma.

"I am sorry Dadaji , I am not plucking the flowers, just wanted to get some fragrance." Little Ruby answered shyly and she left immediately .


Mr. Sharma was a sober person in his early sixties, who was retired from his job before 2-3 years. His garden was the topic of discussion among his neighborhood. He was devoting most of his time to maintain his garden or playing with his dog TOFFEE.
Toffee was a Labrador, which Mr. Sharma had taken from his friend when it was only a few days old. They both loved each other so much and this creature was like a family member to him. But Mr. Sharma’s daughter-in-law was not very happy with the dog, as she used to think that Toffee was the reason for her few months old son’s frequent health issues. She requested her husband, Mr. Sharma's son, to leave Toffee somewhere else or give it to any of his friends.
Mr. Sharma’s son was a kind hearted man. …

#ChildrensDay Let kids play freely

Yesterday I missed my office and enjoyed the day with my naughty toddler.  I and my husband were playing with him and while playing he did a funny thing. He said “Abhi Baby ko base pasand hai (the song) lagata hu..” He went to the front wall and put his finger inside a wall patch and came back. As per his play, this was switching on the song ‘Baby ko base pasand hai’ which happen to be his favorite song these days. We, husband-wife, laughed madly noticing his silly play. Kids around the world, those living with the most sophisticated families in big cities to those living in remote villages; spend much time 'just playing.' And only we adults can use this word ‘just’ with playing here.  We assume nothing is happening when kids are playing, mostly when they pretend to be a doctor, a mother, a fairy or a firefighter . You must have seen kids holding their arms like wings, making motor sounds, and running about, pretending to operate airplanes or a bike. The reality is, a lot is …

Empathy - A story

"Hey, young lady! What are you doing?  Don’t touch those flowers." Asked Mr. Sharma.

"I am sorry Dadaji , I am not plucking the flowers, just wanted to get some fragrance." Little Ruby answered shyly and she left immediately .


Mr. Sharma was a sober person in his early sixties, who was retired from his job before 2-3 years. His garden was the topic of discussion among his neighborhood. He was devoting most of his time to maintain his garden or playing with his dog TOFFEE.
Toffee was a Labrador, which Mr. Sharma had taken from his friend when it was only a few days old. They both loved each other so much and this creature was like a family member to him. But Mr. Sharma’s daughter-in-law was not very happy with the dog, as she used to think that Toffee was the reason for her few months old son’s frequent health issues. She requested her husband, Mr. Sharma's son, to leave Toffee somewhere else or give it to any of his friends.
Mr. Sharma’s son was a kind hearted man. …

Weight Loss with Loving myself..

Weight loss for me is a touchy subject. Yes, I am little obese and I am still trying to shed my pregnancy weight. But, I feel trying to eat healthy (or I should say which don’t add to my extra deposit) makes me lonely.  Just imagine I am having boiled Lauki and my family having delicious Puri Sabji.  In these two years, I have tried many times to stick to my weight loss regime but I gave up every time. Reasons are many but mostly because I was unhappy eating all those boiled and tasteless food. 
Yesterday I came across a WhatsApp video in which actor Akshay Kumar is telling how we can save our coming lives from being shaky as most of the people today have an unhealthy lifestyle. After watching that video I thought for a while and I would say those points really inspired me to go for weight loss habits AGAIN. But I have a different ‘pilan’ (plan) this time. For next few months I am going to do below things for losing my weight without feeling lonely and troubled: Finding an exercise that…

#DearZindagi A Letter to My Life..

“I am writing a letter to life for the #DearZindagiactivity at BlogAdda“.
Hello Dear Zindagi,
With aim of writing a letter to you, I recalled few lines from a poem written by famous poet Gulzar :

Hai lau zindagi, zindagi noor hai
Magar ismein jalne ka dastur hai...

Ravayat ye hai ke zindagi gehna hai
Ye heera hai aur, ise chaat-te rehna hai
Ke lamhon mein marne ka dastur hai..

Adhoore se rishton mein palte raho
Adhoore se saanson se chalte raho
Yuhin jeenay jaaney ka dastur hai..

Hai lau zindagi, zindagi noor hai..

How true is that!
My trek so far has been absolutely normal with few ups and downs. And I feel these crests and troughs give a person reasons to live and look forward to every coming morning.  Dear life, with this letter I want to convey my feelings and warmth about this journey over which I am going with you.


Dear life, you gave me most caring parents of this world, who never disappointed me and never failed me when I needed them.  I witnessed a beautiful childhood which was full of fun…

Fear of Failures - Atychiphobia

I have been a studious girl in my childhood. And because of my deep interest in studies, I always secured good marks and ranks during my school days. From class 6th to 10th, continuous five years I secured the first rank in my class. Although class 10th board exam results were the first taste of failure for me when I was at fifth position in terms of overall marks percentage. Apart from studies, I was also active in other activities like debate, essay writing, and singing. I used to take part in various inter-school competitions and luckily I always got a prize, if not always first then either second or third for sure. My house of was full of trophies and medals. This success had made me a popular kid among parents of my classmates. My father used to feel very proud of me as I used to succeed in every test where I appeared till class 10th. And with success come the fear of losing it. Slowly I started hating failures. I wished to win all the time. I only wanted fame and recognition so…

"Dangal" (movie) effect, I am simply loving it..

Recently is launched the trailer and the poster of a very look-forward movie "Dangal". From the first sight of this movie’s poster, I am simply falling for it. Reasons are many and I am really desperate to discuss them. In the first look of director Nitesh Tiwari’s movie Dangal, which is going to be released on December 23, actor Amir Khan is surrounded by four girls all wearing what is popularly called a boy look. These girls are in t-shirt-lower and having a boy cut hair. If you look at the poster with the eyes of a parent, you would find it very close to your heart. Amir Khan is playing the role of a father of four girls, who turns his disadvantage (what our society says) too many daughters, not enough sons, into an advantage that makes him as famous as his wards. The movie is impaired by the true story a man “Mahavir Singh Phogat” whose daughters Geeta and Babita Kumari and niece Veena are among the country’s leading wrestlers. This movie is celebrating the achievement …