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On Mother's Day A letter to my future daughter-in-law

First of all let me tell you that I am so excited to meet you. You might still be in diapers somewhere (so does my son is) but soon we'll meet and I'll get the pleasure of having a daughter in-law. So, welcome to the family dear! You are going to get a new mother, May not as perfect as yours but definitely a caring one!
Just like my son, you may also not be able clearly talk yet. By today, your future man is just figuring out how to say things in his sweet voice and I am his voice these say. I can comprehend his thoughts being his mother. So I would like to say that this may be too early to talk to you but darling time passes in blinks and I wanted to be prepared for your wedding with my son.
I promise that I would give the best man of your life. For this I'll put my best efforts to help my son in finding you. I'll make sure that he understands the meaning of "being a Husband" which is one of the two most important titles a man carries in his life. Other is of course "Father". He will surely know that he has to carry two biggest responsibilities of his life, as his father is doing commendably.
I assure you that from your first meet; you'll find him as a courteous and respectful man. A man, who will never violate the grace and dignity of a woman. He will be a strong and humble life partner for you. He will not push and prob you into work if you first and foremost want to focus on your kids. If you want to do job, he'll be happy to share responsibilities of home and kids.
He will adjust himself in your family and will grow to love them. He will clearly see that your parents have raised you with full hearts, and be profoundly grateful for them. He will be a fast friend to your siblings and a support to your parents. He will look forward to welcome them as often as he can. He will laugh and cry with them all your married life.
He will know that belief matters a lot in relationships when faith between you both is under attack. He may want to be head of the home for financial matters but he will value your suggestions. He will surely understand that family is not an important thing, it’s everything.  He will try to shadow all sorrows and bad days with giving you reasons to smile always.
He may have flaws. He will get angry and frustrated and selfish, at times in saying and doing things. Please, please forgive him and work it out. You will all be the stronger for it. I have learnt from my life experiences that in front of love and humor any anger can melt down. So please use your love whenever you find friction between you both.
More than anything else, my son will love you with everything in him. You will be the most wonderful woman in his life. You will be his very best friend, the best decision he ever made. I know after you both get married, he will face conflict in balancing my and your wishes. But please remember that I am his mother and he’ll be little biased towards me. Your job will be to support him and get your wishes fulfilled without putting him in any battle of preference.
It’s Mother’s day today. I know as I am a doting mother, your mother will also be a devoted woman. She must be dreaming about your future and married life. Please convey my wishes to her for this very day and say her thank you that she is doing the greatest thing of her life with mothering you. I hope she would be happy to know that I am preparing her future son in-law. 
Wherever you might be, my future daughter-in-law, I hope you enjoy the rest of your childhood. When you are both ready, I will be more than happy to offer my son to you, knowing that he will do everything he can to take care of you.I wish that you will take care of him, too. All I want is to see him happy with you!
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