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I'm first a MOTHER

My US clients visited India last month. And for getting along with the whole India team they agreed to go for a team 'Dinner'. I have emphasized the word dinner because it was the best choice for everyone in team except me. I informed my manager that I wouldn't be able to join honorable clients for dinner. With surprise, he started questing me why, how, really? I explained him that I'm a mother of 16 months old baby and I don’t want my son to wait for me until it's something unavoidable. So I skipped that dinner party and I reached home timely for my son. Next day when I faced my clients for a meeting, one of them, Ashish, asked me why I was not there in dinner party. I told him that I am first a mother, then wife and then a software person. So my greatest priority now is my son and I don't want to miss any chance of being with my son after office time. Ashish smiled and said "that's awesome". Perhaps he understood what I wanted to convey.

As what famous singer Adele said few days back that motherhood has give her the purpose of life. I also think that after becoming mother I got a new aim for lifetime "To be the best mother for my son". Having my son was such a life altering experience. In-spite of ups and downs, highs and lows I love being a mother. And I'm trying my best to be good in it. This doesn’t mean I don't make my share of mistakes. But I learn from them and move ahead. Best part of motherhood, I feel is, hugs, kisses, giggles and grins which become part of a mother’s life. Motherhood is about making joy even while experiencing the hardest trials of life. With rarely any dull time, I find more happiness in mothering my son than enjoying with my office mates. I must say being a working person, my life is hectic with schedules, office deadlines, diapers, baby food and managing home. But there are many other things which make me feel proud in being a mother. I love that at the age of 30 I can do world's silliest act just for making my son happy. I can jump and dance, act like a cat/dog/monkey, observe ants and birds and behave like a toddler. I feel young and old at the same time. Motherhood has given me a chance to revisit this world through my son's eyes as his life is full of new things, new words, new sounds and new understanding.

Many working ladies also say that their role as a mother has kept them from career growth. Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg has written about it through her book "Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead." She explained in the book that women sometimes have to make choices between a successful career and motherhood, when in reality both are attainable if women face the challenges ahead. So right now, when my tot needs me most, it's only a job for me rather than an ambitious career. And it’s awesome that I got refresh button clicked for my life. My team mates often get confuse in taking my name ‘Shipra’ because of another team mate ‘Shikha’. Although I think both the names are quite different but yes they get confuse in calling shipra or shikha. That's why I have told my team mates "Call me Mumma if you forget my name :)" I can get it crystal clear.
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